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Do not make mistakes that can be used in court or upset your spouse which can result in prolonged conflict!

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In certain jurisdictions, you typically have to wait 90 days before you can file with the government that you are legally separated. You also have to wait 365 days before you can file for divorce. Whether the divorce is amicable or acrimonious, you need to ensure you protect yourself by not making any mistakes that can be used against you in court or upset your spouse and cause the divorce proceedings to spiral out of control.

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As with the previous blog, the focus of the first 90 days needs to continue throughout the first 365 days until the divorce proceedings are finalized.

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If you have children, It is critical to track custody and access to the children with detailed evidence, every interaction, issue, or concern must be captured, documented in detail with supporting evidence, and journal therapy with counselling should be used to investigate, dialogue with, and analyze your feelings, thoughts, issues, and concerns.

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It is critical to maintain a low profile, minimal social media footprint, and focus on relationships with children, family, and religious centres, so that the courts can see you are behaving in a manner that is in the best interests of the children.

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  • Document Custody Time, Issues, Interactions, Child expenses, etc with evidence
  • Maintain relationships with school and school teachers
  • Maintain relationships with Children's doctor
  • Maintain relationship with Police, CAS, CRA
  • Monitor the spouse financials and lifestyle
  • Monitor the spouse’s ability to manage children, finance, life, etc
  • Watch for behavioural changes in children

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