How many of you have been FORCED TO LEAVE YOUR HOUSE under threat of police or children’s aid being called – resulting in loss of personal items and decreased access to children?

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Although being forced out of the house during an ongoing divorce and separation, especially when dealing with custody battles, can happen to either parent. In my personal experience, and in the experience of dealing with the many people that have come to me, I have found that it is usually the men who are forced to leave the home under the threat of having the police or children's aid called on them under false pretenses.


While the situation in this article is discussed from the perspective of a male point of view, once again, this can apply to either the father or the mother.


When my wife left me, it was like my whole world came crashing down. We had been married for twelve years, and I thought we were happy - relatively happy. But I guess I was wrong. She said she needed space, next thing I knew, she asked me to leave the house or she would call the police making up some horrible lies that I won't mention here.


She wanted her freedom, she wanted to hurt me, and she wanted full custody of our children, and she was willing to do whatever it took to get it - even if it meant kicking me out of the house. She accused me of being abusive, even though I had never laid a hand on her. She told the kids I am a horrible father. The court battle was ugly, and lasted nearly 4 years. It didn't seem fair, but I guess that's just the way things go sometimes.


I want to clarify that, although the four-year separation and divorce were absolutely horrible, the 12 years of marriage, which produced five beautiful children was good. In retrospect, had I been home more and not traveled so much for work, had I communicated more with my wife, had I spent more time with my children, perhaps things could have turned out differently.


Why does either parent want to force you out of the house during the separation and divorce process? What benefit could there be?


One possible benefit could be that the parent who leaves the home can avoid any potential conflict with the other parent. If there is a lot of tension and hostility between the parents during the separation and divorce process, it might be best for one parent to move out to avoid any unnecessary drama.


Another possible reason, and the more likely reason, is that by being forced out of the house, the other parent can make a claim that the leaving parent abandoned the house, abandoned the children, and the staying parent can now lay claim to the house. During court case, the judge will look for maintaining the status quo. So if the parent had left the house and had limited access to the children, they will prefer to keep things that way. Their belief is that they do not want to burden the children from any changes.


The impact of being forced to leave your home so the other parent can have leverage during your separation and divorce proceedings


When I moved out to give her some space and hoped that cooler heads would prevail, that is where I made the mistake.


This allowed her to occupy the house, declare I abandoned it, and declare that I abandoned the children. Leaving the house gave her a great deal of independence where she was able to leave the kids home alone and go out on dates, throw out my things, go through my things, sell my things, take cash from my bank account, and many other things. The more divorced and separated friends she met and listened to, and the more dates that she went on, the more conflict we seemed to have.


The final straw for her was telling me that I had to start paying child support, while I was still paying for the mortgage and all other expenses, which I gladly did, but that still wasn't enough.


It was a tough time, but I got through it. Now, looking back, I see that her forcing me to leave was just a way for her to gain leverage during the divorce. But at the time, it felt like the end of the world.


Support and advice for those who are going through or have gone through a similar experience of when their wife forced them to leave their home so she can have leverage during their divorce proceedings


I never thought I would be in the position of having to leave my home because of my wife. But that's exactly what happened. She used the fact that I wasn't living there as leverage in our divorce proceedings. It was a nightmare. If you find yourself in a similar situation, I have some advice for you. First, try to stay calm and rational. It's easy to get caught up in the emotion of the situation, but it won't do you any good. Second, get organized and make sure you have all the documents and evidence you need to make your case. And finally, don't hesitate to reach out for help from family and friends. They can provide much-needed support during this difficult time.


If you have gone through similar experiences, we would like to hear from you.


When I was forced to leave my home, it really threw our lives into turmoil. We had to adjust to a new normal and it was really tough on all of us – especially the kids. If you're going through something similar, then you know how difficult it can be. I encourage you to reach out for support from friends, family, and professionals. And if you're looking for a unique set of services designed specifically for people in your situation, then be sure to check out The CustodyMate Ecosystem.


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